“If he really loved me, he would know how I’m feeling… If she really loved me, she would know what I’m thinking…” I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard these comments over the years from individuals and couples in counselling sessions. I really understand this way of thinking. When I was a teen-ager, […]
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I came to see you when my relationship had just broken up. I needed to work on my self- esteem, assertiveness and being more in control of my emotions. I found the sessions life-changing in the most positive way. I have definitely improved in all of those areas and am amazed how quickly your techniques
Because all relationships have some level of conflict, how you manage conflict is important. It can be hard to do conflict well when you’re under stress or feeling triggered by your partner. With on-going conflict that seems to follow the same patterns, and where you feel it is getting harder and harder to feel positive
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Every relationship, be it intimate, friendship, collegial or familial, has some level of conflict at one point or another. Some relationships are fraught with conflict whereas others have seemingly no conflict. And there are many stages in-between. Relationships with on-going conflict (and I’m not including abusive relationships in this discussion) aren’t necessarily bad relationships. And
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When we first came to see Lauren we were having significant communication problems and having major arguments without either of us understanding what was happening to us or why. It got to the point where one of us was threatening to leave and the other agreeing that it might be the best thing. In desperation
Thank you for all you have done for me. When I think back I can see just how far I have come with many things in the past year, and that’s thanks to you.
When I get asked what I think is the most important ingredient for a good relationship, you may be surprised to hear that I don’t say ‘love.’ In our western world, we tend to believe that a good relationship is one where two people love each other. We don’t follow the practice of arranged
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Most of us lead very busy lives. For many of us, work takes up a big part of our week. With modern technology, mobile phones and email are hard to turn off so you often find yourself working even when you’re not at work! And then there’s managing a family: cooking, cleaning, shopping, ferrying kids
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D: When I first went to see Lauren, I was very angry, frustrated and feeling quite bitter towards M. I felt embarrassed about getting professional help and that we couldn’t sort things out ourselves. I was feeling desperate. M: I was feeling pretty low and thought I was going to have to move out. I
When I started counselling, I was at a low point emotionally and our marriage was at a point where we didn’t want to part company but it seemed like we were heading in that direction. My husband and I were seeing a different counsellor together and I was a bit cross that my husband felt
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