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In a new series of videos on Greater Good, forgiveness expert Dr. Fred Luskin shares what he has learned from two decades of studying and teaching forgiveness. Dr. Luskin explains what forgiveness is and isn’t, outlines the benefits of forgiveness, and discusses how people can prepare themselves to forgive offenses large and small. His talk draws on the insights he’s gained […]

It’s been a while since I’ve posted a blog but I thought in these unprecedented times of Covid-19 it might be helpful to write about how to keep ourselves sane during these difficult times. How do I manage my anxiety during this time of Covid-19? It is not surprising that so many of us are

Here is an article written by Grace Jennings-Edquist from ABC Life, August 6, 2018 Grace interviewed me for the article and as it addresses a pertinent topic for many of us, I thought I would share it. I can’t remember which way to look before crossing the road anymore. I keep expecting to find wine

In my work with individuals and especially with couples, I often talk about curiosity.  What does it mean to be curious in a relationship? The art of being curious can show itself in different ways and this is what I look for when I work with couples.   Are partners curious about each other? Do they

This 75-Year Harvard Study Found the 1 Most Important Factor for Living a Happy and Fulfilling Life I think we can all agree that in this chaotic world, it’s difficult to figure out what’s most important to prioritize. It’s overwhelming to maintain a career and have a personal life, tend to our social media feeds

*This article is based on an interview conducted by Diane Poole-Heller with Ellyn Bader as well as ‘Stepping Stones to Intimacy:  A Positive Outlook on the Challenges All Couples Face’, published by The Couples Institute. I do a lot of work with couples: married, defacto, not living together, in the midst of a break-up, separating,

When clients ask me what I think is the most important ingredient for a successful relationship, I always answer:  ‘respect and trust for one another.’ Without these two ingredients, it is difficult to have an emotionally secure relationship with your partner. Many of us are what we call ‘conflict avoidant.’  This means that we aren’t

Esther Perel is a sex and relationship therapist, the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and a consultant for the hit Showtime series The Affair.  Her TED talks on Desire and Infidelity have been viewed more than 14 million times.  This article was originally published as “Close Encounters: The Case Against Snooping” in the July 2016 issue of Cosmopolitan.

Peter Pearson, Ph.D. and his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader, founded The Couples Institute in1984. Both are psychologists and directors of the Institute and have helped over a thousand couples in their work. Pete is an engaging and dynamic therapist, speaker and writer. The following article is from a newsletter Pete has written. It is thought-provoking

Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security and the need for freedom in human relationships. She is the author of ‘Mating in Captivity,’ and you can view her TED talks on YouTube.  I thought it would be interesting to share her thoughts on what she calls