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In a new series of videos on Greater Good, forgiveness expert Dr. Fred Luskin shares what he has learned from two decades of studying and teaching forgiveness. Dr. Luskin explains what forgiveness is and

It’s been a while since I’ve posted a blog but I thought in these unprecedented times of Covid-19 it might be helpful to write about how to keep ourselves sane

Here is an article written by Grace Jennings-Edquist from ABC Life, August 6, 2018 Grace interviewed me for the article and as it addresses a pertinent topic for many of

In my work with individuals and especially with couples, I often talk about curiosity.  What does it mean to be curious in a relationship? The art of being curious can

This 75-Year Harvard Study Found the 1 Most Important Factor for Living a Happy and Fulfilling Life I think we can all agree that in this chaotic world, it’s difficult

*This article is based on an interview conducted by Diane Poole-Heller with Ellyn Bader as well as ‘Stepping Stones to Intimacy:  A Positive Outlook on the Challenges All Couples Face’,

When clients ask me what I think is the most important ingredient for a successful relationship, I always answer:  ‘respect and trust for one another.’ Without these two ingredients, it

Esther Perel is a sex and relationship therapist, the best-selling author of Mating in Captivity and a consultant for the hit Showtime series The Affair.  Her TED talks on Desire and Infidelity have

Peter Pearson, Ph.D. and his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader, founded The Couples Institute in1984. Both are psychologists and directors of the Institute and have helped over a thousand couples in

Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security and the need for freedom in human relationships. She is the author of ‘Mating

This article is by Michelle Wangler Joy, a therapist who has been employed at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA since 2002.   Michelle provides both couples and individual counselling,

Feeling over-whelmed is something that happens to most of us. It usually creeps up on us, unawares, and then something happens that wakes us up to the feeling. Upon reflection,

  By Lucy Wise-Chalker for The Newsroom,  August 13, 2015   The beauty of a monogamous marriage   Life’s short. Have an affair… If you have heard this slogan chances are

  Counsellor Connecting with Clients in Growing Practice Date: June 27 2015 by Josh Jennings Counsellor Lauren Sokolski says she remembers spending three years counselling one client for the depression,

How many times have you heard your partner say: “That’s not what I meant?”  How many times have you said: “That’s not what I meant?” One thing is for sure:

What Will Your Legacy Be?   by Steven Stosny, PhD, in Anger in the Age of Entitlement, April 9, 2014   Any therapist who has worked at all with senior

This article was written by Peter Pearson who, together with his wife Ellyn Bader, founded The Couples Institute in 1984 in Menlo, California.  You and your partner formed a relationship

Are you someone who thinks that a good relationship means you have to agree with each other about everything? Many people believe that the sign of a good relationship is

Over the years, I have worked extensively with couples as well as individuals around the issue of separation.  I have worked with couples and individuals who are in the process

You know how we all receive emails forwarded by someone who received it from someone who received it from someone else…? Some of these emails I delete right away, or

Feeling anxious is something that happens to all of us at times and is nothing to be ashamed of. I found it really helpful to learn some innovative strategies for

We all want a relationship that is emotionally fulfilling.  We want to feel loved, valued and respected by our partner.  Lots of relationships start off this way.  There is the

When one partner has an affair, it causes damage to the primary relationship (the relationship that you’re in full-time with your partner).   An affair can sometimes mean the end of

“If he really loved me, he would know how I’m feeling…  If she really loved me, she would know what I’m thinking…” I can’t count the number of times I’ve

Because all relationships have some level of conflict, how you manage conflict is important.   It can be hard to do conflict well when you’re under stress or feeling triggered by

Every relationship, be it intimate, friendship, collegial or familial, has some level of conflict at one point or another. Some relationships are fraught with conflict whereas others have seemingly no

                      When I get asked what I think is the most important ingredient for a good relationship, you may be surprised to hear that I don’t say ‘love.’  In our

Most of us lead very busy lives.  For many of us, work takes up a big part of our week. With modern technology, mobile phones and email are hard to